“Charisma is a gift in people that cannot be bought, it is a tangible energy, with tangible effects”
Positive reinforcement is all about rewarding the behaviour, achievements and qualities that you admire in others. Charismatic people offer sincere compliments, express genuine appreciation and provide uplifting encouragement that help people feel good about themselves. Positive reinforcement boosts the other person’s self-esteem and in turn makes you feel good about yourself, improving your own mood and sense of well-being. People who engage in positive reinforcement are considered more charismatic and likeable by their peers.
Charismatic presence is when charisma allows you to command a room. It is the quality of being able to attract, charm and influence those around you. Charismatic people can convince any stranger to like them instantly and the first impression they normally present is one of friendliness. A charismatic personality is described as magnetic and likeable and charismatic people have a higher awareness level than average. They are aware of their personal and other people’s emotions and behaviours.
Do you catch yourself drifting away when someone is talking to you? Or you may find yourself looking around the room when holding a conversation with someone? These actions are attributed to a lack of presence.
People are capable of noticing these facial expressions in an instant, so faking your listening or attention will cause people to feel annoyed, inferior and sometimes even resentful. A lack of visible presence is considered disingenuous which can create negative emotional consequences. If you are seen as inauthentic it is nearly impossible for you to build trust with people or promote a genuine bond and loyalty.
Learning how to practice active listening and focusing on the person you are engaging with is paramount. Developing a charismatic presence is all about being fully present in the moment. When you bring your full presence to the moment, you exude a magnetic energy that draws others closer towards you. It’s not about putting on a show, or pretending to be someone that you are not. It is about showing up as the best version of yourself. Having a charismatic personality can make a huge impact in various area of your life, giving off the impression that you are competent and capable in everything you do.
Communication, the words you use and how you speak holds great importance. Being good with words is a captivating habit that charismatic people develop over time. The ability to communicate, being intentional with your words, expressing yourself clearly and conveying your thoughts and ideas in a compelling manner makes you charismatic. It’s all about speaking with precision and using speech with the people you are speaking with in a manner that resonates with them. That way you will come across as a thoughtful empathetic person, who knows how to communicate effectively.
Charismatic people give more of themselves while expecting nothing in return. They give 100% of who they are selflessly. It is a remarkable habit that sets them apart. Charismatic people genuinely care about others and derive a satisfaction in making a positive impact on other people’s lives. They give without a hidden agenda or any notion of reciprocity.
Adapting the principle of giving without expectation of receiving, you shift the focus from yourself onto others. By becoming attune to other people’s needs, you offer support when they need it most by showing genuine compassion.
Empathy is a game changer in the world of charisma. Empathy is the ability to make people feel truly understood and valued. Charismatic people have the ability to create safe, supportive spaces, allowing people to feel seen and heard. By acknowledging and validating others emotions they build trust and allow people to forge deep connections. Empathetic individuals are considered more likeable, trustworthy and socially competent. Empathy enhances cooperation and helps resolve conflicts because the empathic person has the ability to see something from another person’s point of view. When you create an empathetic connection, you show others that they matter and that is an incredibly attractive trait to have as it easily draws people closer to you.
Adaptability and being able to connect to any situation and to any person from all walks of life is also key to being charismatic. Being adaptable is the ability to accept and thrive in any situation, embracing change easily and remaining open-minded. Charismatic people have the amazing capability of adapting their behaviour, communication style and mindset to connect to others effectively. By embracing adaptability, you are showing a genuine interest in others and what matters to them. You are comfortable enough with who you are to step outside of your comfort zone and embrace different situations, cultures and perspectives.
So What Triggers Charisma & Can You Learn It?
Charisma comes down to your emotional approachability, your influence and ability to motivate others. People will see you as more charismatic if you smile often, look them in the eye, communicate directly and genuinely make an effort to include them if involved in a group setting. Mastering your presence, connecting to your power of making other’s feel good about themselves and showing genuine warmth when engaging with people is the best way of learning to be more charismatic.
“Consciously or not, charismatic individuals have specific behaviours to deliberately make others feel good about themselves”